As I was thinking of what to share with us this Friday, I began to think about the men around me – family members, at work, online, offline friends from afar and people you meet just being out there. I wonder always how some of you women can put up with some of the things that I see always. As men, after God created us to be His friend and have someone to “talk” with; the first thing He did was to put us in charge and be RESPONSIBLE for everything He created. He created the woman to be A HELPER. If God created the woman to be your helper, why have you as a man turned your woman into your slave by making her responsible for all you are supposed to be responsible for? So many men have abandoned their God’s given position as the head and not only the wife is suffering from it but the children that God has given you as gifts and to be a caretaker are the ones suffering. I don’t want to start preaching this morning, I’m not the Pastor my wife is but it breaks my heart to see children like the way we’ve made them…
I met Wole some years back at a job fair and we started a conversation over the local newspaper headline. It was a story of a fourteen years old girl who was allegedly kidnapped from Atlanta and believed to have been taken to New Orleans for prostitution.
He glanced at the picture of the young girl and calmly says “that’s one of my daughters.” Surprised?, yes I was shocked at his casual acceptance that this was his daughter but I tried to keep my calm until he told me he had another son serving time in prison for robbing a bank. He put all the blames on their mothers. Mothers? I asked… He claimed he had been married four times. Two wives in Nigeria and the other two in U.S.
“All they all want is my money.”
Wole was a cab driver for so many years and he doesn’t feel responsible for having seventeen kids with various women. He was so disconnected with reality so much as not to care about whatever happens to his children. It was a long conversation and I instantly became a Counselor!
Can we blame Wole for his actions/reactions or blame those women that keep choosing him to be absentee father to their children? As a woman, what are the signs you need to look for during dating to know that your man is responsible? As men, what can we do to help one another? How can we help these irresponsible fathers see the true meaning of RESPONSIBILITY. Please let’s discuss this.